We can all relate - whether we grow up or grow apart - life changes, interests change, priorities change - so friends change too. Sometimes it is necessary. Sometimes there are toxic people in our lives that we need to get rid of. Sometimes it's just a part of life, and that's okay. Sometimes it's very sad, even hurtful to lose a friend. Friendships experience an array of emotions, so why shouldn't there be a variety of emotions experienced when we lose that friend too?
During the last several years, I've experienced a crazy, stupid amount of change. Some as a normal part of life; some based on my own decisions (good, bad, or really ugly); and some unexpected. I've mentioned on my blog before, and I'll probably mention again, that I have done a lot of self-analysis. I've grown a lot. I've worked hard at it. And, I acknowledge that I will continue to analyze, work, and grow. I'm happy about that path too.
With that growth, I've learned how to look at some things in a positive way. Sometimes, I have to force myself to do it, but I feel better for it. Losing some friendships along the way, I've learned to not focus on the sadness, the hurt, the void that is left behind. I've learned to focus on the memories; to appreciate and value some of the amazing experiences I've had with some tremendous individuals. There are a handful that I thought would be in my life forever. Yes, it's sad, even hurtful, and I do feel their absence. But, I choose to remember those special times, those treasured moments, and consider myself lucky to have those memories.