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March 14, 2016

The following was originally posted on my blog (TexErin-in-Sydneyland) in January 16, 2014; two plus years later, it still stands true.


We can all relate - whether we grow up or grow apart - life changes, interests change, priorities change - so friends change too.  Sometimes it is necessary.  Sometimes there are toxic people in our lives that we need to get rid of.  Sometimes it's just a part of life, and that's okay.  Sometimes it's very sad, even hurtful to lose a friend.  Friendships experience an array of emotions, so why shouldn't there be a variety of emotions experienced when we lose that friend too?

During the last several years, I've experienced a crazy, stupid amount of change.  Some as a normal part of life; some based on my own decisions (good, bad, or really ugly); and some unexpected.  I've mentioned on my blog before, and I'll probably mention again, that I have done a lot of self-analysis.  I've grown a lot.  I've worked hard at it.  And, I acknowledge that I will continue to analyze, work, and grow.  I'm happy about that path too.

With that growth, I've learned how to look at some things in a positive way.  Sometimes, I have to force myself to do it, but I feel better for it.  Losing some friendships along the way, I've learned to not focus on the sadness, the hurt, the void that is left behind.  I've learned to focus on the memories; to appreciate and value some of the amazing experiences I've had with some tremendous individuals.  There are a handful that I thought would be in my life forever.  Yes, it's sad, even hurtful, and I do feel their absence.  But, I choose to remember those special times, those treasured moments, and consider myself lucky to have those memories. 

 

3 comments :

  1. Isn't that the way of things. Even though we have technology that keeps us connected, the drifting still happens. I just moved to a whole new state and though I text my friends it isn't the same and we do lose track of the day to day. But I like your approach...to make them into memories.

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  2. I personally believe in the reason, season, lifetime thing that is often referred to when discussing relationships, friendships included. About a year ago, I ended a friendship with someone whom I had been friends with since elementary school. We were very close once upon a time, but our friendship had faded somewhat over the years into more of an acquaintanceship. But, despite the physical distance between us and the different lives we lead, we tried to remain in touch. We parted because the relationship had started to become more of an aggravation than a benefit. As I grow older, I find that I have less and less tolerance for people who bring drama into my life. Although I was sad after it initially happened, in the months that followed, I made myself think of all the good times we had growing up. I chose and continually choose to remember those times over the not so good times and I'm thankful that I had a 30 year season of knowing her.

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  3. Someone once told me that some friendships have expiration dates and I believe it. Some are meant to teach us things, valuable lessons and others, they suck the souls out of you.
    My circle of friends is paltry these days but I'd rather have quality over quantity.

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